I am restless. Constantly bouncing from one thing to another. I somehow find distractions. Shiny objects. I am energized by new ideas.
I love tickling my brain in different ways and my typical “Full Day” like today is a mix of reading, working, an improv class, getting outdoors, and hanging with my special lady friend. I like to go to bed tired and fulfilled.
My work these days is primarily coaching, consulting and presenting. I love the diversity of activities in a typical work week. A mix of coaching sessions, consulting work, workshops, Zooming, philanthropic endeavors, business development and administrative duties. Ok, maybe I don’t love the admin.
That’s a lot.
I used to also focus on being an emcee, auctioneer, improv performer, comedian and DJ as part of my business services.
That’s a whole lot.
Like too much!
And, don’t get me wrong, I love all of it but I had to compartmentalize “all the things” into buckets so I could move forward in few areas.
I like “doing” a lot of things. But being busy vs. “doing” undermines what I know are the best things for me to focus on. Being busy keeps me from going deep. Being busy can fill my day with the little things. It’s really hard to have a focused marketing plan for “all the things” 😊
There is an interesting tension between those two things: being restless and going deep.
Restless is more than an adjective. Restlessness can undermine my desire to be of great impact. A saboteur within myself. Once I could put a label this saboteur I could see the patterns, the lack of focus, and the resulting scattershot approach.
Awareness is noticing patterns.
Mental Fitness is taking small steps towards building new patterns.
Now I understand the importance of focusing my attention on a few things and giving space to all of the other things as “fun but not my primary focus” bucket. Improv, emcee and standup comedy became “play.”
Being focused is building up the mental muscles needed for the heavier lifts in my life.
What are your Saboteurs? What are those voices telling you?
For you maybe you are overly focused on achievement, pleasing others, attention-to details, overthinking, avoiding, controlling, or vigilance.
Awareness is the first step.
I’ve loved taming my Restless saboteur. It didn’t take long and the Restless voice is volume 1 instead of volume 10. I’m moving forward with more ease and flow and doing what serves more people with more impact.